To clarify, I wrote that “men (gay and straight) seem quite capable of unattached sex.” In my experience, a fair amount of men did seem ready, willing and able to have sex at my beck and call. Whether you’re looking for someone or you’ve already met that intriguing new person, knowing your own needs in and wants for the relationship is the essential first step. I don’t know what was actually going on in their minds; I can only speak from my own experience.
They either couldn't find the right guy, were with the wrong guy, had relationships that didn't last, or had given up on dating entirely. This is not your grandma's dating guide. Partially because I'm not your grandma, and partially because the 21st century poses unprecedented challenges to the modern woman.
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being married and having a child puts me in a different category than the one I used to belong to as a single woman with no children. When I wrote the post in 2010, I was single, discontent, living in a large city and surrounded by overlapping social circles but lonely and increasingly convinced that a long-term, committed relationship was never going to happen for me.
I must say, I am relieved not to be dating anymore. It wasn’t my intention to perpetuate any stereotypes about men and sex. How much time would you ideally like to spend with the other person, at first?
Too many self-help books are bought with a lot of initial enthusiasm, and then gather dust (or e-dust) on someone's bookshelf or hard drive.