had to Read more So you are smitten, head over heals, seeing forever but he won’t commit to a relationship with you.
Christiane Northrup, Internationally bestselling author of Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom.
I know your advice is: “Walk away and don’t look back. Dear Eileen, I must admit, I’m always surprised when advice that I think is straightforward ends up being confusing for a reader. Walking away is not saying, “Jim, so where is this relationship going? ” or “How come I don’t hear from you during the week? ” Those are all weak attempts to negotiate with him.
All you have to say to the noncommittal man – and I’m sure I’ve written this down somewhere before – is this: “It’s been fun hanging out with you for these past few months, but I’m not looking for a once a week fuck buddy. If you’re not settled with a guy by then, he’s ambivalent, he’s using you, and there’s no one else to blame but you.
He doesn’t call you during the week because he doesn’t WANT to. This is all obvious to everyone but you (and maybe your equally dreamy and romantic girlfriends). Fact is: people tend to become exclusive FAST – often within days, but generally not much longer than 6-8 weeks. And he’s going to say to you when you’re done: “You’re right.
Sleep with him when he wants, clear my schedule for him, revolve my life around a guy who doesn’t do that for me, but he “doesn’t want to lose me”, etc. And since, apparently, it’s not you, I’m going to have to say goodbye.