Yet psychologists who study men who endure abusive childhoods would probably agree that James was not being self-serving but rather that he was telling the truth.The public reaction that he was being “whiny” or self-serving is typical and part of the reason why so many men are reluctant to be open about their childhood abuse and how it affects their current relationships.However one of the most painful among these is an abusive childhood which has the potential to inflict long lasting damage on adult relationships.
He said that his father had physically and emotionally abused him throughout his childhood, and that “I never had a chance to be a kid.
I was always scared.” During rehab, he learned that he self- sabotaged his success and marriage because “I believed I was not good enough.” Some people took James’ explanation as a way of not “manning up” to what he had done.
The media has been of little help deepening the conversation about male sexual victimization.
Millions of men, abused as children, continue to live with the debilitating effects of shattered trust.
Talking about boyhood sexual abuse and its aftermath for men can be difficult, even painful. By age 16, as many as one in six boys in America has had unwanted sex with an adult or older child.